Pregnant women are often talking about how people are actually more helpful now that they are pregnant. While this is good to hear I wonder to myself if the nice man who held the door open would have otherwise let it close, except it was Pregnant Girl walking in behind him and door slamming a PG is so not okay, but door slamming another human being is totally fine, huh. I’m perplexed. One thing I know for sure (said in my best Oprah voice) is that every girl who ever delivered a baby gets the offer from Mom and/or MIL to come stay after the baby is born and help. How nice.
If you want my opinion, which you probably don’t, but that has never stopped me (or your mother for that matter) in the past, ask exactly what their definition of help is. Does help mean cook, clean, never complain and leave after one week? Or, does help involve baby talk, holding baby while asking what’s for dinner then surprising you by deciding to go ahead and stay a month? I have heard dream like stories of Mom/MILs that are like little fairies who do it all. Then I have heard nightmares of dragon ladies who were formerly called Mom.
Are you accepting post-baby help? From who? Will they come right away? Your mom or his or both? Did you have a good or bad baby helper that you need to vent about right here right now?
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That is a big “hell no” here. Since the birth of my nephews, my mom has gone cucupants on all of us and would, no doubt, be the dragon lady. I’m sure my MIL would be sweet, but she works full time, so we’re going it alone.
I know my Mom will be there to help us and I am looking forward to that. I am not sure when my in-laws are planning on arriving. I know they will want to come out and help for a bit. I actually am looking forward to the help! Both my parents and my husbands are amazing and I don’t think they will drive us too crazy. I have heard many horror stories though!
When my daughter was born we lived in Florida, all alone, with the rest of the family in Michigan, except MIL #1 on the other side of the state. My parents arrived the day we came home from the hospital. They were a big big help! They stayed at a hotel, because we didn’t have room in our tiny apt. They always stopped at the store and bought something for baby we needed and didn’t yet have, or food! My mom cleaned a lot, my dad fixed things, and my mom was always bringing me water, making me prop up my feet, etc. dad in law and step MIL came during week 3 and pretty much made it a vaca for them, they were hardly at our apt! so I guess that was fine too, they came to visit for a little while and then did their own thing. MIL #1 didn’t come for a few months! We even had to drive the 4 hrs there for her to see her granddaughter for the first time… and this is the longest comment I have ever made… sorry lol
btw I just saw your post on 20sb moms, and I had to check out your blog because I LOVE the name of your site! it’s perfect!
I knew some ladies needed a place to vent. Thanks mislpacedmomma;)
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Love your blog……I just had no.2 and I can say I looked forward to my mom coming to help. Just to take me 2 year old and give me head space!